tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5448733660746907841.post7430135920437743124..comments2023-03-23T06:57:17.384-05:00Comments on So Minnesota. (Yah, you betcha!): family mattersMinnesota Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09708972129935267729noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5448733660746907841.post-86501167540554102202008-07-23T15:21:00.000-05:002008-07-23T15:21:00.000-05:00I too have a "difficult at best" relationship with...I too have a "difficult at best" relationship with my dad and siblings that don't exactly help the situation. <BR/><BR/>Write her a letter- people rarely ignore snail mail. Say what you've said here (the second paragraph of your post speaks volumes)- be as diplomatic as possible without selling yourself short. Don't blame and don't look for pity. Be strong and honest and real- even if she chooses to hold a grudge, at least you will know you've said your piece.Whiskeymariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16680444919622976790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5448733660746907841.post-37617299674387588952008-07-22T18:03:00.000-05:002008-07-22T18:03:00.000-05:00thanks for all of your kind words of support, i'm ...thanks for all of your kind words of support, i'm lucky to have such great friends, both online and off!Minnesota Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09708972129935267729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5448733660746907841.post-51705187379834539702008-07-22T17:11:00.000-05:002008-07-22T17:11:00.000-05:00Yikes, your post makes me realize how very lucky I...Yikes, your post makes me realize how very lucky I am that alcoholism hasn't affected my life. Good luck to you and stay strong. It sounds like your head's in the right place.hromakihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14419143111495241752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5448733660746907841.post-62227963956858087712008-07-22T16:22:00.000-05:002008-07-22T16:22:00.000-05:00I can relate to some of what you are dealing with ...I can relate to some of what you are dealing with right now. I always stuck by my mom, letting her rule my life, while my siblings headed for the hills. Now, even though no one will come right out and say it, I get a lot of attitude for pretty much cutting her out of my life. It's easy to judge someone else when you have taken your breather and haven't borne the brunt of the abuse. It's hard when the ones who bailed earlier decide to swoop in and be heros - and then judge you for saving yourself. We are all responsible for our own happiness and caretaking, you are doing the right thing for you and your children. I'm here for you if you need to vent or just hang out. Don't let the fact that I have a baby scare you away - people have babies every day and still have lives! :) My heart is with you. I'm here for you.Janaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06394563349170212714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5448733660746907841.post-68848087043143566302008-07-22T16:04:00.000-05:002008-07-22T16:04:00.000-05:00Sounds like you've all dealt with a lot of pain as...Sounds like you've all dealt with a lot of pain as it relates to your father. I imagine cutting him out of your life must have been an incredibly hard decision to make . I hope that in time your sister will understand and respect that. I wish you all the best!Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01504441297464745715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5448733660746907841.post-72566712258310020492008-07-21T21:08:00.000-05:002008-07-21T21:08:00.000-05:00She's just trying to clear her conscience. I comme...She's just trying to clear her conscience. I commend you for holding your ground. I know the pain he has caused you (previous discussions). I'm truly sorry that he is ill, I hope that somehow you can all come to terms with the decisions you've made and respect each others choices. I'm always here for you if you need an ear or a shoulder. Love ya and miss ya!Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00887395523733202267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5448733660746907841.post-40794008814125066922008-07-21T08:25:00.000-05:002008-07-21T08:25:00.000-05:00wow, thanks for sharing. this was painful to read....wow, thanks for sharing. this was painful to read. the pattern gets repeated in family after family, but it never loses its sadness.<BR/><BR/>i think you've done what you needed to do for your own sanity and health. good for you for sticking to your guns. i think when the baby comes along, you send a sincere card and a nice little gift, and then it is up to them how to react. you are willing to forgive your brother for threatening/guilting you, they should be able to "forgive" you for not letting yourself get dragged down yet again by your dad's alcoholism.<BR/><BR/>good luck, and stay strong.feistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00546263838525086191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5448733660746907841.post-47379620430036371962008-07-21T07:26:00.000-05:002008-07-21T07:26:00.000-05:00A truly gutsy post. I am so sorry to hear about th...A truly gutsy post. <BR/><BR/>I am so sorry to hear about the pain that alcoholism has brought you... but it is so good that you are looking out for yourself and doing what is healthy, otherwise alcoholisms byproducts (enabling, etc) can live on for generations (same deal in my family).<BR/><BR/>The weird thing about families and alcoholism is it seems that each sibling often has their own version of the events of the past. It sounds like your sister hasn't accepted your reality as her own.<BR/><BR/>I hope that with time your sister will come around.Guacaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777830343729311279noreply@blogger.com